Experts argue that harsh verbal treatment should be recognized as a form of abuse due to its significant and lasting negative effects.
New research suggests that parents who resort to shouting at children or using derogatory language like “stupid” may be putting their offspring at heightened risk of self-harm, drug use, and legal troubles
The study defines this form of mistreatment as “adult-to-child perpetration of verbal abuse” involving shouting at children, denigration, and threats. According to the findings published in the journal Child Abuse & Neglect, such actions as shouting at children can be as detrimental to a child’s development as physical or sexual abuse. The research suggests that up to 40% of children may experience verbal abuse, surpassing rates of physical or sexual abuse. US child abuse expert, Prof Shanta R Dube, underlined that adults may be unaware of the impact their critical and harsh words can have on children, especially if that mirrors their own upbringing.
A UK study led by Prof Mark Bellis found that those subjected to verbal abuse like shouting at children were almost twice as likely to use cannabis and nearly twice as likely to end up incarcerated compared to those who were not. A survey of 11- to 17-year-olds reported that 41% frequently encountered hurtful language from adults.
The most damaging words cited were “you’re useless” and “you’re stupid”
Concern over the prevalence of verbal abuse like shouting at children has led to the establishment of a new charity, Words Matter, supported by organizations like NSPCC and Save The Children. Prof Peter Fonagy, a co-author, emphasized the profound impact of verbal abuse like shouting at children, leading to lasting psychological distress, emotional difficulties, and even physical health issues. The study urges parents to recognize the lasting effects of their words, advocating for more positive communication with their children to prevent potential long-term harm.